Simple ways to avoid rejection

November 10th, 2008, Posted by Lizzie Creedy Smith

Nobody likes being rejected. You finally get up the courage to ask someone out that you’ve fancied for ages only to be told that they’re “not interested” or that “your a really good friend but…”, there are some simple behavioural patterns however that can be looked out for, which can give you a good indication about how someone feels about you and whether any romantic feelings are shared before you get to the crunch moment of asking them out.

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There are methods of finding dates with much less embarrassing risks of rejection, such as online dating where all the preliminaries are done via the computer or speed dating evenings where you know that everyone there is looking for the same thing as you. Trying to find dates in the privacy of your own home or at specifically organised events has much less risk of embarrassment factors than seeing someone face-to-face and asking them out, particularly if you are out with a group of friends. However, it is not always possible to avoid the social situation of asking someone out; so here are a few easy-to-spot behavioural factors that may help you avoid potentially embarrassing situations.

1) You see them around a lot more. If someone likes you then they will do more to make you notice them. Maybe they ‘pop in’ because they were in the area or contact you to ask something that they blatantly already knew the answer to. The psychology behind this is that the more you see of someone the more obvious their opinion of you becomes, so, in making you see more of them they have a better idea of what your opinion of them is.

2) They mimic you. According to certain studies, when you are attracted to someone you pick up certain habits, mannerisms and sayings that they use. So noticing if they use your expressions, mimic your body language etc can be a good way of sussing out whether someone is into you.

3) They let you get closer. This applies to men particularly because they are particularly territorial. If they are comfortable with you getting within two feet of them, then chances are that they are quite keen in getting closer with you.

Of course these are only a few things to look out for, but, hopefully they should give you a clearer idea of whether someone is interested in you and could potentially save a lot of embarrassment when contemplating asking someone out.

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